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I’ve recently met someone and we’ve fallen pretty hard for each other. Plus, she’s totally hung up on the fact that he said he was divorced on OKCupid. For reasons more pragmatic than principled, I am opposed to people dating before they are divorced. We both have two kids in middle school: a girl and a boy. So, for all intents and purposes, it's like they're divorced, they just haven't done the paperwork. She says dating him is wrong because he’s still a married man. Dear In Love, I realize this happens all the time, but I think misrepresenting one’s marital status on a dating site raises legitimate questions about a person’s veracity. The bigger issue here is not that Ben said he was divorced on OKCupid, it’s that he is in fact still married.One night, we were out just the two of us, and he told me his wife had been traveling for work for the past few months and their marriage was basically over. He said he had dealt with all his feelings and had accepted it. We decided that we'd be exclusively sleeping with each other, and we go on dates and spend a lot of time together, but he doesn't want anything more serious.His wife is leaving again soon and they're technically separated, but I know they obviously still talk.I moved to a new city a few months ago and have made some good friends.
But there’s nothing like a not-yet-ex finding someone new to make the person who wanted the divorce in the first place have second thoughts about splitting up. As a result, your fun, new relationship with Ben will get bumped and bruised in the process of Ben’s divorce.
Dating married man is not something any of us want to do.
We know it’s wrong and harmful, but we can’t always help how we feel. We can never control how we feel about someone – no matter if they’re married or not.
You see, I separated from my ex two years ago, and our divorce was final about eight months later.
Simply put, dating has a zero percent chance of making a divorce go smoother, and a bazillion percent chance of making it more contentious. I get that Ben has been separated for a couple of years, and that it was his wife’s decision to move out. Ben will be preoccupied with the twists and turns of his divorce at times – and that’s understandable.
You’ve got some good friends — and they’re giving you the right advice.